by Lawrence J. J. Leonard
Woulda, shoulda coulda are the words we sometimes say when looking back at a situation that did go our way or work out favorably. We feel worse when a relationship we have problems with quickly comes to an end. Then what makes us more upset is seeing our Ex do well with someone else. This kind of realization can make us long for the way things used to be.
For the Canadian heavy metal band KITTIE, writing songs about busted relationships and bad vibes between lovers seems to be the main theme of their fourth album “Funeral for Yesterday,” The band spent Year 2006 designing the music and writing the lyrics for this work. The album consisted of 14 tracks, an incredible effort for a metal band, which at the time was less than 10 years active and having two brand new memebrs. KITTIE band members on this album were Morgan Lander vocals, Mercedes Lander drummer, Tara McLeod guitar, and Trish Doan on bass. As a metal band their song themes regularly touch on angst, separation, pain and disillusionment.
For KITTIE when things did not go right with their record label, they took matters into their own hands. They decided to release “Funeral for Yesterday” on their own label ‘X of Infamy Records.’ The album was distributed through EMI Records. It debuted at #101 on the Billboard 200 Album charts in 2007.
We can take a page from their book when dealing with one-sided associations. Despite how comforting it may be to play it safe, and just let life wash over us, we could take matters into our own hands. There is always a risk that if we are not careful, we just might not get what we want when stepping out solo. What should we ignore and what should we hold onto when we know that a relationship is over?