by Lawrence J. J. Leonard
Change is not a skill to be mastered. Why? We can only escort it though our thoughts and deliver it unto our processes.
Once there, we must learn to walk with it. As soon as we start making changes, we only have yesterday for a comparison.
Nobody has to change. Something about us always does because of the situations we are in.
American writer Libba Bray writes about a character named Gemma Doyle. Doyle has a revelation in The Sweet Far Thing concerning change: “With this power, there is no telling what I can do to change what needs to be changed.”
What is that power? Electric, supernatural, or is it the will to do so?
Even if we don’t have to change,
how can we integrate change into our lives to give us an advantage? This is a question every general, CEO, president, and villain have been asking themselves for centuries. We have to wonder then, if change is not a skill, what is it? Tangible? Intangible? Follow me first, and then I will tell you.
Change is a transformation into being able to develop a better version of ourselves. It may be something that only seems to be constant. Someone who takes a new step will eventually go a new way.
Walking in another’s shoes and then having the capacity to empathize with that person
is a valuable people skill.
Change is not
Change is NOT a matter of CHANCE because it IS a matter of CHOICE. Change is not consistent! Change is not STRUGGLING against the current norms because it IS building a NEW MODEL of best practices that can be exercised. Change is not always welcomed.
Certain things should never change, such as peanut butter. (I am serious!)
Let’s be real
Change begins at the end of our comfort zone. It causes a lot of people to feel uneasy. It can make all we want possible by definitely revealing who we are. Change takes time.
We should hang around different people if we cannot positively change the people around us.
This is a valuable people skill.
When can we do this?
When we think about things differently. Do we really want to change the world? Then, we must act differently so that we can fulfill our potential.
Being mature means we stop making excuses and stop complaining and start making changes.
This is the ultimate people skill.
It was Coco Chanel who said, “Fashion changes, but style endures.”
REMEMBER: ONLY what we can control is what we can change.
This is living with style.
Loving someone or something is embracing change. Plus, it is hard work! The smallest change can bring the biggest reward. Things change. Times change. We fear change. We grow when we change.
The truth is we hate change! If change is not a skill, what is it?
Change is the impetus, the force, the universe telling us: that we need to master our people skills.
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