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The Saddest Songs of Rock and Roll – # 6

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by Lawrence J. J. Leonard

A common expression we hear not only in team sports but also in relationships is “She/ he seemed to  hit a wall.” This could mean a physical obstacle such as endurance or not seeing the “big picture.” However, in a relationship it can mean that the people involved could not make it work or even reach some sort of a compromise. When there are problems just getting along it can be very frustrating.  A psychological professional might look for a way the people involved acknowledge the problem and then take responsibility for their own (lack of) contribution. We can and should depend on our friends for acknowledgement, sociability, and communications. At best we hope that the other person understands our setbacks and failures. At worst our friendships can be more like, to use a phrase, “misery loves company.”

Chad Gray frontman for the Dallas, Texas, metal band HELLYEAH, writes songs that reach the very hearts of metal music fans. In 2006 Chad was fronting his first band, Mudvayne, while developing a project with former Nothingface guitarist Tom Maxwell, bassist Kyle Sanders, former Pantera and Damageplan drummer Vinnie Paul, with guitarist Christian Brady.  Chad has said in interviews that most people who like rock music want some kind of outlet to express  feelings and emotions associated with lost love.  Maybe because this is a common human experience.  Relationships that end – for good or bad – are a kind of parting and it is these broken ties which make us who we are.

During the promotion of their fifth studio album “Unden!able” Chad said that he himself has lost love and, sadly, has experienced the death of those he loved on every level. This made it easy as a writer and hard as a human being to write songs that are all too familiar.  It is the familiarity of  the lyrics in HELLYEAH songs that make their music relatable. One of the keys to the band’s allure are the lyrics which invoke the vulnerability of the person in the song. Earlier tracks such as “Thank You,” “Better Man”, or even the bravado charged “You Wouldn’t Know” collide angst and metal in big booming sound that rock and roll music enthusiasts appreciate because the lyrics are also powerful. One song in particular stretches the mind poetically so that singing the lyrics gives different approaches to the same melancholy outcome.

When we let others see that we are needy or weak or easily hurt, this is usually a sign of trust. Why do we do this, expose ourselves to ridicule and teasing, in hopes of being loved for just who we are? Sometimes it is a way of sharing similar experiences. What does it say about us if we are not willing to change or not willing to see life from another’s perspective? This is not blind optimism. is it?

Number 6
When Warner Music’s Eleven Seven Records released “Unden!able” in the early summer of 2016, the band’s cover of Phil Collin’s “I don’t care anymore” was the band’s statement against domestic violence. It was the album’s fourth release.  In January of 2017  “Love Falls” became the fifth release from the 13 track album. It peaked at #43 on Billboard’s Hot Rock Songs chart as of November 4, 2017. Some music critics have called the song a reminder that we all face an uphill climb when we offer ourselves to love. HELLYEAH is technically a heavy metal supergroup because it’s members were previously in other successful bands. This is not what makes them super. It is the fact that they promote camaraderie and brotherhood/ sisterhood amongst their metal music crowds.

Unity is a comforting notion. It is not always achievable in a large group. Honest relationships can be formed in smaller groups of people and even more often between two people. If we should “hit the wall” and be confronted with communication difficulties, we should remember that commitment begins by appreciating the other person for who they are.

Lyrics: written by: Vincent Paul Abbott, Thomas Maxwell, Chad Gray, and Kevin Churko

Have you cried yourself to sleep
Have you felt this incomplete
Have you ever cut yourself so deep to see if you still bleed
Do you ever feel wanted
Do you ever feel needed
Do you ever feel happy
Or are you just like me

I’m hanging by a thread, a rope, the noose around my neck
I choke, because every time I’m falling
Love falls out of me
I’m hardened like a rock, a stone, the brick inside my chest
Alone because every time I’m falling
Love falls out of me
Love falls out of me

Have you ever wished for death
And prayed all night for your last breath
Have you ever wanted to forget the feeling of your dreams
Because I never feel wanted
And I never feel needed
And I’ll never be happy
But I guess that’s just me

I’m hanging by a thread, a rope, the noose around my neck
I choke, because every time I’m falling
Love falls out of me
I’m hardened like a rock, a stone, the brick inside my chest
Alone because every time I’m falling,
Love falls out of me

I’ll never forget the day I died
Love memories frozen and denied
Flower of my heart withered and dried

I’m hanging by a thread, a rope, the noose around my neck
I choke, because every time I’m falling
Love falls out of me
I’m hardened like a rock, a stone, the brick inside my chest
Alone because every time I’m falling
Love falls out of me

I’m hanging by a thread, a rope, the noose around my neck
I choke, because every time I’m falling
Love falls out of me
because every time I’m falling
Love falls out of me
Love falls out of me

Depressed? Do something about it. Please find help before making any rash decisions.  Click here: the National Institute of Mental Health.

Eating disorder (ED)? CLICK HERE to get more information from the NIMH.

Read up on PTSD – post traumatic stress disorder Click Here.

Don’t try suicide. Talk to somebody. Click here for the phone number and information.

Think BEFORE you drink. Click here for AA.

Copyright © 1960-2017 Lawrence J. J. Leonard All rights reserved.

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