When are the Golden Years?

By Lawrence J. J. Leonard

There are five stages of grief, according to Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, who proposed this in her book On Death and Dying which was published in 1969.

We know that the stages do not necessarily occur in any specific order.  Many people suffer grief because of a particular loss. The stages help to signify where we are
mentally so that, in time, we can achieve a more peaceful acceptance
of death and/or loss.

The stages Elisabeth has given us are:

1. Denial and Isolation
2. Anger
3. Bargaining
4. Depression
5. Acceptance

Many of us have journeyed with loss and have been through these stages.

I no longer deny that my favorite pet has passed after 14 years of loving me.
I don’t ask G_d to trade my work for one miracle because my mother-in-law suffered.
I have not shed any more tears for my dad who was the greatest role model of love.
I now celebrate the death anniversaries of momma, aunt Conchita, and uncle Andy.

But I still find it hard to accept the death of my grandparents, father-in-law, and David, because, David Bowie was the musician in the moments of my life.  He was just like family and so, yes, I am getting to Acceptance, albeit slowly.

What to do in these cases?
Always go back to basics.
#1 — Celebrate today.

Understand that TODAY is the center of your Golden Years.

“Golden Years”
David Bowie
from Station To Station 1975

Golden years, gold whop whop whop
Golden years, gold whop whop whop
Golden years, gold whop whop whop

Don’t let me hear you say life’s taking you nowhere, angel
Come get up my baby
Look at that sky, life’s begun
Nights are warm and the days are young
Come get up my baby

There’s my baby, lost that’s all
Once I’m begging you save her little soul
Golden years, gold whop whop whop
Come get up my baby

Last night they loved you, opening doors and pulling some strings, angel
Come get up my baby
In walked luck and you looked in time
Never look back, walk tall, act fine
Come get up my baby

I’ll stick with you baby for a thousand years
Nothing’s gonna touch you in these golden years, gold
Golden years, gold whop whop whop
Come get up my baby

Some of these days, and it won’t be long
Gonna drive back down where you once belonged
In the back of a dream car twenty foot long
Don’t cry my sweet, don’t break my heart
Doing all right, but you gotta get smart
Wish upon, wish upon, day upon day, I believe oh Lord
I believe all the way
Come get up my baby

There’s my baby, lost that’s all
Once I’m begging you save her little soul
Golden years, gold whop whop whop
Come get up my baby

Don’t let me hear you say life’s taking you nowhere, angel
Come get up my baby
Run for the shadows, run for the shadows
Run for the shadows in these golden years

I’ll stick with you baby for a thousand years
Nothing’s gonna touch you in these golden years

Gold
Golden years, gold whop whop whop

Watch the “Soul Train” interview and hear “Golden Years” – click here

Copyright © 1960-2016 Lawrence J. J. Leonard  All rights reserved.

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